Long Island Counseling Blog
Fights happen! All couples fight. It’s just that couples in healthy relationships fight better. Unhealthy relationships or marriages with a high degree of conflict suffer because the partners don’t know how to fight well. THE GOODNESS OF THE OTHER: Fighting well means holding on to the fundamental goodness of the other even when you’re hurting…
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Are you looking for a marriage counselor? Are you looking to talk with a marriage counselor who can also provide sex therapy? My work with couples embraces both traditional marriage counseling as well as sex therapy. We focus on both the emotional connection and on the erotic or sexual connection. EMOTIONAL INTIMACY AND SEXUAL INTIMACY…
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HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU? It’s Saturday morning. You and your partner have plans! You’ve decided to spend the day running some fun errands and catching up together. You’ve discussed getting breakfast then stopping at the car dealership to see that SUV you were considering, then lunch in your favorite bistro, perhaps a walk…
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You don’t have to be married to benefit from couples counseling. In fact, going to counseling before you walk down the aisle can be incredibly beneficial to your future marriage. This pre-marital couples counseling isn’t just for couples who are unhappy or considering calling off an engagement. Many happy couples find that their relationship is…
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EMOTIONAL SAFETY IS IMPORTANT: Emotional safety is important in healthy relationships. No well-functioning relationship can work if the partners feel frightened, afraid, tense, or expect the other to walk out the door any minute. And emotional safety is key to building trust, human connection and growth. It promotes intimacy, vulnerability and a durable sense of…
Read MoreWhen you are having sexual issues in your relationship, it can feel hopeless. Maybe everything else in your relationship is great, but the sexual component has just never quite come together. Maybe your sex life has always been great, but recently, due to stress, arguments, or other factors, it has lost its luster. Maybe you…
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WHY MARRIED COUPLES DON’T FRENCH KISS ANYMORE . . . . Oh How Delicious It Is! Slow sweet sexy kissing. Open-mouthed or closed-mouthed. Delicate little rose-bud kissing or long-stemmed, rain-drenched, full-bloom kissing. The feeling of desire, of compassion, of erotic connection. Sadly, Many Couples Report They’ve Stopped French Kissing Entirely. In my office, couples I tell…
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7 HEALTHY BEHAVIORS OF COMPATIBLE COUPLES Don’t Confuse Similarity With Compatibility. We’ve all heard new lovers exclaim, “We’re soul-mates. She likes everything that I liked”! Indeed, similarity or sameness is a powerful driver. Across all spectrums, people seek others who come from the same country of origin, who are the same race or religion, who…
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HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE MARRIAGE IS WORTH SAVING . . . Help with answering this question is called Discernment Counseling, servicing the couple that has not yet decided, and needs help making this decision. DISCERNMENT COUNSELING IS NOT MARRIAGE COUNSELING Discernment Counseling recognizes and respects that the struggling couple is most…
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LOOKING DIFFERENTLY AT INFIDELITY Why do partners in committed relationships cheat? I’d like to consider, here, the proposition that in some instances, when one partner cheats, it’s one part of a corresponding set of messages that both partners are transmitting back and forth between themselves. When a relationship is failing, much is at stake. The…
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