SEXUAL DESIRE: The Importance of Seduction
Struggling With Loss of Sexual Desire . . . Not interested in sex? Need to work very hard to feel minimally aroused? Is your partnership or marriage suffering because of the loss of sexuality and the lost erotic component? Loss of sexual desire is said to be a woman’s biggest sexual problem. This is true…
CAN WE WORK IT OUT: How To Decide?
DISCERNMENT COUNSELING HELPS YOU DECIDE . . . . Are We Compatible? Couples facing the question whether to try to repair the marriage or divorce typically ask the question: are we compatible? All Couples Fight: And couples certainly get on each other’s nerves. Living together is sometimes like a train wreck waiting to happen. Bad habits…
KISSING: Why We Stopped
WHY MARRIED COUPLES DON’T FRENCH KISS ANYMORE . . . . Oh How Delicious It Is! Slow sweet sexy kissing. Open-mouthed or closed-mouthed. Delicate little rose-bud kissing or long-stemmed, rain-drenched, full-bloom kissing. The feeling of desire, of compassion, of erotic connection. Sadly, Many Couples Report They’ve Stopped French Kissing Entirely. In my office, couples I tell…
ARE WE COMPATIBLE: How to Measure
7 HEALTHY BEHAVIORS OF COMPATIBLE COUPLES Don’t Confuse Similarity With Compatibility. We’ve all heard new lovers exclaim, “We’re soul-mates. She likes everything that I liked”! Indeed, similarity or sameness is a powerful driver. Across all spectrums, people seek others who come from the same country of origin, who are the same race or religion, who…
SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? Helping You Decide
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE MARRIAGE IS WORTH SAVING . . . Help with answering this question is called Discernment Counseling, servicing the couple that has not yet decided, and needs help making this decision. DISCERNMENT COUNSELING IS NOT MARRIAGE COUNSELING Discernment Counseling recognizes and respects that the struggling couple is most…
WHAT IS PSYCHOANALYSIS: 7 Principles
Distinguishing Psychoanalysis From Other Mental Health Treatments Strong empirical evidence supports the thinking that psychoanalysis brings about positive outcomes, including symptom remission, increased psychological and emotional flexibility, strengthened view of self, and improved capacity to engage in healthy and mutually satisfying relationships. Not only is there evidence to show the efficacy psychoanalysis, evidence also points…
MARRIAGE COUNSELING: How It Really Works
Taking a Look Behind Closed Doors What is marriage counseling? What should you expect from marriage counseling? How does it help? Can marriage or couples counseling save a failing relationship? It’s mysterious—what goes on behind the closed doors in a marriage counseling office. Is one partner getting a scolding for not taking out the garbage?…
INFIDELITY: Understanding Why
LOOKING DIFFERENTLY AT INFIDELITY Why do partners in committed relationships cheat? I’d like to consider, here, the proposition that in some instances, when one partner cheats, it’s one part of a corresponding set of messages that both partners are transmitting back and forth between themselves. When a relationship is failing, much is at stake. The…
MORE OF THE SAME FIGHT: Why We Do It
EXPLORING MORE OF WHY COUPLES ARGUE Who Do We Marry? And, why? When marriages fall apart, the resentments often sound like this: “ . . . He was as self-involved as my father and they both mostly put their own needs before mine. How was I blind to their similarities”? . . . or “. …
THE SAME FIGHT: Why We Do It
THE DARK TRUTH ABOUT FALLING IN LOVE Couples in conflict: they have the same argument over and over. They trigger the same resentments, provoke the same painful responses from each other and engage in the same awful behaviors as they did in their last fight. Why? And, how to stop fighting the same fight? We…