As all married couples know, marriage is hard work. Marriage involves equal parts of give and take from both parties, and there are certain elements that play a key role in making your relationship work, such as communication and honesty. That being said, as you go through life, there may be some circumstances that cause harm to the bond you and your partner share. In today’s post, we will discuss a few ways in which you can try and strengthen your relationship and your marriage.
While some problems are easily fixed between you and your spouse, other problems may require help from a trained professional. At Long Island Counseling, Lisa Lempel-Sander is proud to offer a variety of services for both individuals and couples who wish to work on their relationship. If you and your spouse are interested in strengthening your marriage through couple’s counseling, contact Long Island Counseling and schedule an appointment.
Give Each Other the Right Amount of Space
When it comes to having a happy and healthy relationship, too much or too little space can become a problem. You and your partner will have to figure out how much space is appropriate for your relationship. Some couples may spend as much time as possible together and never get sick of each other’s company. However, another couple may not spend as much time together, especially if one or both partners are independent in nature. As a couple, you will have to decide how much time together is enough, and you will also need to respect your partner when they tell you they need some space. For example, if your partner wants to go out and have fun with their friends, don’t insist that you tag along. Instead, give them the space to have fun without getting upset. Additionally, if your partner wants to spend time with you, make sure you make quality time with your spouse a priority.
Work on Communication
Communication is a key part of a healthy relationship, and learning to communicate effectively will help you strengthen your bond with your partner. Many people think that communicating with their partner is easy, but there is a difference between simply talking to your partner and actually communicating effectively. Communicating with your partner consists of both speaking to them and listening to what they have to say in return. Just as a healthy marriage involves an equal amount of give and take from both spouses, effective communication is equally speaking and listening to your partner. Granted, this can be difficult at times, but if you practice actively listening to what your spouse has to say, you will find that communication is easier and more pleasant.
Recognize Your Differences
If you have close friends that you’ve known for years, then you most likely recognize and accept that you are not completely the same. Your best friend probably has a few habits that you don’t completely agree with, and there may be times when you’re not very happy with their decisions or how they handled a certain situation. However, there are very few things that will ruin the friendship you have with this person.
When you get married, it’s important to go into your marriage with this same mentality. You and your spouse are not going to agree on everything, and your spouse will probably have their own annoying habits and qualities that make them the unique person that they are. It’s important to not get upset about these small quirks, and instead recognize that you and your spouse are two different people, which is what makes your relationship so unique!
Lend a Hand
It can be difficult to ask for help when it’s needed, whether it’s help taking out the trash or help recognizing when it’s time to take a break. If you notice that your partner is struggling to get everything done, then instead of sitting back and giving them space to tackle it themselves, try and step in and lend a hand where you can. This can be especially helpful for couples who have children and work full time. Try to anticipate what needs to be done and complete seemingly small tasks without being asked. For example, if your partner is struggling to finish a project for work and you notice there is a pile of dishes in the sink, then take the lead and do the dishes or clean up the kitchen just to make the environment a little nicer.
Don’t Hesitate to Seek Help
In some cases, there is only so much that you and your partner can do on your own, and if you are struggling to create a happy and healthy marriage, then it may be time to seek help from an outside source. At Long Island Counseling, we can help you and your partner work through your differences and give you the tools you need to succeed. We offer couple’s counseling, as well as individual therapy services for residents of Long Island. If you have any questions, or you would like to learn more about our couple’s counseling services, contact Long Island Counseling to schedule an appointment.