Self-esteem is the confidence you feel in yourself and your abilities, and many people struggle with having low self-esteem for one reason or another. Unfortunately, self-esteem isn’t something you’re born with, and it can fluctuate over time. That being said, just as your self-esteem can get lower over time, it can also get higher, and in today’s post, we will provide you with a few ideas of little things you can do to help give your confidence a boost and raise your self-esteem.
If you’ve tried to boost your self-esteem in the past and you’re still struggling, one great thing you can do is seek help from a therapist. At Long Island Counseling, we offer a variety of individual counseling services to help people just like you who are struggling with a variety of issues. Explore our website to learn more about the services we offer, and if you’re ready to start raising your self-esteem, contact Long Island Counseling and continue reading below!
Let Negative People Go
Everyone has at least one negative person in their life — that person who never has anything nice to say, who puts you down, or who makes you feel insecure. For some people, eliminating those toxic people is easy, but for others, it could be a little more complicated. For example, you may have a friend who has been in your life for years, but recently they changed or started being more negative. It can be difficult to not think about the good times you’ve had together. However, you also have to consider your mental health and how being around that person makes you feel. If you feel like you have lower self-esteem every time you see them or you feel as though they bring out the worst parts of you, it may be time to say goodbye.
Heal Your Past
The saying is “Put your past behind you,” but even if you don’t think about things that happened in your past, those situations still have a way of affecting you in the future. Healing from your past is a great way to start increasing your self-esteem. There are a few ways you can try and heal your past, such as digging deep to try and uncover root causes, but if you have a lot of issues or troubles to work through, we recommended seeking the help of a trained counselor. Consider reaching out to Long Island Counseling to schedule an initial appointment today!
Focus on What You Can Change
The way someone talks to you, an incident from the past, or the pile of work you have waiting on your desk are all examples of things in life that can affect your self-esteem, but they’re things you have no control over. Unfortunately, many people tend to dwell over things that are out of their control, which can make you feel worse, but one thing you can do to help boost your self-esteem is to learn to accept what you can’t change and start to focus on the things you can. For example, if you don’t like the way you dress, especially compared to other people in your office, instead of wishing they wore uglier clothes or that you looked as good as they do, consider taking yourself on a shopping spree and only buying clothes that look good on your body and your shape. Another option is to write down something about yourself that you’re not happy with and write down three ways you can change it.
Do What Makes You Happy
One way to think more positively about yourself is to do things that you enjoy. If you spend most of your time doing things you hate doing, you’re going to be in a grumpy mood, but if you change up your routine and do some things you like to do, it can put you in a better mood which then translates to a boost in self-esteem! Consider taking yourself on a date where you treat yourself to all of your favorite things, or if you don’t have an entire evening, dedicate one hour to taking a nice hot bath or watching your favorite show.
Celebrate the Small Stuff
Too often, people get the idea that they can only celebrate the big accomplishments in life, but that’s not the case. If you’re struggling with your mental health or your self-esteem, it’s encouraged to celebrate even the smallest accomplishments because it will make you feel good about yourself. Did you get out of bed and get dressed this morning? Celebrate it! Did you clean up the dishes in the sink that have been sitting there for a week? Celebrate it! When you take the time to make a big deal about your small accomplishments, it can help you gain confidence in your abilities and start feeling like the wonderful person you are.
Write Down Your Goals
Setting long-term goals for yourself is another way to gain more confidence. However, the key is to write them down and keep them in a visible place. It’s easy to think of a goal, but if you don’t write it down, you can just as easily forget it. Consider what you want to accomplish that will help you feel really great and confident in your own skin. Once you have an idea, write your new goal down on a piece of paper and put it in a place where you will see it every day. Doing this will help remind you each day what you want to accomplish and make it easier for you to take the necessary steps to achieve it.
Ready to Boost Your Self-Esteem?
At Long Island Counseling, we want to help you feel confident and live a happier life. We offer a variety of individual counseling services to people throughout New Jersey, and we are here to assist you in any way that we can. If you’re ready to get started and make that first step towards high self-esteem, give us a call or reach out using our online contact form to schedule an appointment today!