When you meet that one special person, falling in love is a whirlwind of romance and passion where you can’t imagine living in a world where they aren’t a part of your life. While it’s easy to imagine the life that you will live together, making it happen is a completely different story. Love and marriage are not easy, and you have to work hard and want to make it work in order to succeed — you can’t just give up at the first sign of trouble. That being said, there are some problems that you may come across in your marriage that you simply cannot fix on your own. That’s why, in today’s post, we will discuss a few telltale signs that it’s time for you and your spouse to seek marriage counseling.
If you and your spouse live in Long Island or the surrounding areas and you’re looking for a knowledgeable counselor who can help you work through your marital difficulties, then look no further than Long Island Counseling. We offer a variety of counseling options, including couple’s counseling, and we are more than happy to provide you with the assistance you need. Learn more about our services on our website and give us a call today to schedule a couple’s counseling appointment.
You Find Support From Other People
A marriage is a partnership, and you married your partner because they were the person that you pictured being there for you when you needed someone to talk to or to share in your good fortune. However, if you’ve started going to others for emotional support, then it may be a sign that you are having issues in your marriage. Your significant other is the person that you should want to go to first if there is something weighing on your mind, but if that is not the case, then it may time to seek help from the professionals.
You Never Fight
When you think of couples who need to seek couple’s counseling, you most likely picture two people who are constantly fighting and never seem to speak in a voice quieter than a yell. But sometimes being too quiet can be just as bad for a relationship. If you and your spouse have stopped fighting about issues altogether, it is not a sign that you finally agree on things, it could be a sign that one or both of you have given up on the relationship, especially if you’re keeping quiet about concerns that you may be feeling. Instead of voicing their concerns, they have given up and lost interest in even finding a solution in their problems.
You Keep Having the Same Fight
Fighting sometimes is normal when you’re in a committed relationship, Most of the time, when you fight about an issue you eventually come to a conclusion and move on. However, one sign that you may need to seek couple’s counseling is if you and your spouse continue to have the same fight over and over again. Maybe you thought you finally resolved the problem, or maybe one of you keeps bringing up the argument out of spite. Whatever the case may be, seeking couple’s counseling may help you finally resolve the issue and put the argument to rest.
You’re Planning to Get Married
Many people think that couple’s counseling is only necessary when you’re trying to repair the marriage, but that is not the case. Couples can also seek counseling before they get married, especially if they want to start their life together with a strong foundation. Couple’s counseling before your wedding can help you and your partner define your expectations for your marriage and what you are hoping your life will be like. Discussing your intentions for your marriage is an important part of the promise you and your partner make. When you sit down with a counselor, you have the added bonus of trying to resolve any potential disagreements or problems before they become a strain on your marriage.
Your Partner Asks to Seek Counseling
We’ve often seen it dramatized in the media that when one partner asks for counseling, the other partner refuses to put in the effort. That being said, in the real world, if your partner is asking to see a counselor about your marriage problems, you should take it as a sign that they are willing to make your marriage work. Instead of getting angry and making a big deal about counseling, try to approach it with an open mind and the idea that you may walk out of the session with a better understanding of how you can make your marriage last.
Interested in Seeking Couple’s Counseling?
These are just a few ways that couple’s counseling can be extremely beneficial for you and your partner. If you are interested in learning more, or you would like to schedule an appointment with a counselor that you can trust, then contact Long Island Counseling. We offer a variety of services for couples to help them rekindle the fire in their relationship. Browse our website to learn more and give us a call to schedule an appointment today!