Long Island Counseling Blog
If you are part of a faltering marriage, you know just how difficult it can be to maintain hope for your current situation. When neither parties of a marriage are willing to accommodate one another’s needs, this can create a toxic environment that will cause your relationship to slowly degrade over time. Whatever the reasons…
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The important question: How much do you want to know, and why? If your partner has had an affair—if there’s been infidelity in your relationship—how much do you want to know? Obviously, infidelity violates the bond of trust that healthy relationships require. And, when one partner has an affair, the marriage or relationship is severely…
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Many of the couples who seek marriage counseling in Long Island cite money as a major concern in their relationship. For some couples, money and finances can become the main point of disagreement in the relationship. Issues surrounding money can become so toxic that it can lead to the end of your marriage. There are a…
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Recognition—in all of its various aspects—is the key to keeping love alive. If you don’t see or understanding something important about yourself or partner, or if your partner doesn’t “get” something important about you or about himself, the small disappointments not recognized become bigger disappointments that won’t go away. Recognition doesn’t mean you have to…
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My grandmother used to say, “If you cook with love, it tastes better.” Modifying that slightly, I say, “If you speak with love, it sounds better.” What am I getting at? Tone. The way a phrase, comment or question sounds is as important as its content. Human communications expert and psychologist Albert Mehrabian pointed out…
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WHAT’S THE EMOTIONAL TONE OF YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP? There’s a lot of chatter about what behaviors help strengthen a marriage or relationship. Much of that chatter points to the value of spending time together. We see numerous references to “shared values,” or “shared interests,” and “shared goals.” Couples who do things together are healthier…
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DISCERNMENT COUNSELING HELPS YOU DECIDE . . . . Are We Compatible? Couples facing the question whether to try to repair the marriage or divorce typically ask the question: are we compatible? All Couples Fight: And couples certainly get on each other’s nerves. Living together is sometimes like a train wreck waiting to happen. Bad habits…
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Taking a Look Behind Closed Doors What is marriage counseling? What should you expect from marriage counseling? How does it help? Can marriage or couples counseling save a failing relationship? It’s mysterious—what goes on behind the closed doors in a marriage counseling office. Is one partner getting a scolding for not taking out the garbage?…
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EXPLORING MORE OF WHY COUPLES ARGUE Who Do We Marry? And, why? When marriages fall apart, the resentments often sound like this: “ . . . He was as self-involved as my father and they both mostly put their own needs before mine. How was I blind to their similarities”? . . . or “. …
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THE DARK TRUTH ABOUT FALLING IN LOVE Couples in conflict: they have the same argument over and over. They trigger the same resentments, provoke the same painful responses from each other and engage in the same awful behaviors as they did in their last fight. Why? And, how to stop fighting the same fight? We…
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