Long Island Counseling Blog
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, “an estimated 12.5% of U.S. adults experience specific phobia at some time in their lives.” If you suffer from an irrational fear or choose to avert certain situations based on preconceived fears, then you may be suffering from a phobia. There are an endless amount of phobias,…
Read MoreThere are a number of reasons why an individual may decide to seek out individual therapy, however, choosing to do so can be incredibly difficult for some people. Whether there is still additional denial to work through, or the individual in question feels ashamed for seeking out therapy, there are many reasons that can cause…
Read MoreIf you or someone you love has ever experienced the undue effects of substance abuse, then you know just how damaging this can be to the individual suffering, as well as their friends and families. Unfortunately, many never willingly seek out help for substance abuse, which can lead to the problem becoming much worse. In…
Read MoreA false self develops to accommodate the unspoken needs of a parent who’s continued love and support are connected to the child’s ongoing accommodations. A false self persists in the child long after the parent’s mandate is relevant and long after the child has grown. Tragically, a false self interferes with living an authentic and…
Read MoreThe problem with psychoanalysis is that it defies easy definition. We start with Freud who privileged a segmented mind at war with itself, and move through more than 100 years of theory and practice to arrive at the present. Today, psychoanalysis is a very broadly practiced treatment modality. At its most cutting edge, Freud’s main…
Read MoreMarriages fail. In fact, the American Psychological Association tells us that 40-50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. Why? Here’s an explanation . . . I want to try to write here about the unlikely union of Joe, the only child of middle-class parents and the object of his father’s distain for much of…
Read MoreMental disorders can significantly impact an individual’s day-to-day life in such a way that it can be difficult to complete simple everyday tasks. This can be incredibly frustrating, and can cause individuals to have a false sense of the world around them. Although personality disorders tend to develop in the early teenage and adult years,…
Read MoreWhy do partners argue? What’s at the heart of anger? When it comes to perspective, we can say that when a person’s perspective is felt to be disregarded, it causes resentment. When difference is not recognized, it, too, causes anger. Too much of this sort of relating can lead a person to feel they’re in…
Read MoreBlame is different from holding someone responsible. Blame has a punitive quality, designed to do more than identify and hold someone responsible. Blame looks to inflict pain. BLAME vs. RESPONSIBILITY: Blaming someone very often carries with it the wish to make them feel bad. As I wrote above, this added component distinguishes blame from simply…
Read MoreLearning to bring the anxious, chaotic mind under control with mindfulness training may be a large part of successful anxiety treatment and a large part of any therapy for anxiety. A good anxiety therapist should have a solid working knowledge of mindfulness training. DOES THE IDEA OF MINDFULNESS MAKE YOU ANXIOUS? You may feel even…
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