When you’re in a relationship, no matter how idyllic it may seem on the surface, communication problems can and do come up. It’s common for all couples to argue, and while it may seem like the end of the world at the time, most arguments are resolved quickly and without any assistance from a licensed professional. However, some couples do find it necessary to seek the help of a professional therapist. At Long Island Counseling, we understand that the conversation is not an easy one to have. Here are a few tips to help you navigate the conversation.

  • Ask your partner to sit down and talk with you for a moment. Turn off the tv, minimize distractions, and express your concerns. The last thing you should do is bottle up your emotions or discount your feelings. If you believe that marriage counseling is something that will benefit your relationship, tell your partner.
  • The conversation can become heated at times, as some people view the suggestion as a threat or a suggestion that the relationship is already doomed to failure. Nothing could be further from the truth. Marriage counseling is about opening the lines of communication between you and your partner, so your relationship can thrive. Even happy couples can benefit from working with a therapist. If your partner becomes angry or gets offended, remain calm and explain that you want to make the relationship healthier, and that marriage counseling is nothing to be ashamed of.
  • Listen to your partner’s concerns or opinions on marriage counseling. If they begin to suggest that you’re blaming them for any problems or issues, inform them that you do not blame them for the issues in your relationship. A successful marriage is one with open communication where both parties accept responsibility for their actions and work to improve rough situations through dialogue and patience.

If you believe that your relationship could benefit from marriage counseling, call Long Island Counseling today to schedule an appointment.