A successful marriage is one in which both partners – or each spouse – can communicate openly. However, sometimes finding the right words to express your dissatisfaction or frustration can be difficult. You may not even have a specific reason for feeling frustrated. Maybe you simply feel stuck. Stagnancy is not something you need to live with and it’s far more common than you think. If you’re concerned that your relationship with your spouse is not moving in the right direction, it may be time to seek a marriage counselor. Counseling is not something to be ashamed of. It can help you resolve divisive issues, some you may not even be fully aware of. Here are a few of the benefits of working with a marriage counselor.

  • Your counselor is a neutral third party. Unlike your friends who may take sides when you express your frustrations, your counselor will listen to you and your spouse and help you find a satisfying solution. Your therapist will offer a neutral opinion without the emotional attachment, helping you to examine effectively the issues at hand.
  • Marriage counseling is about carefully resolving areas of poor or missing communication and reestablishing the dialogue between partners. We’ll work together to help you feel comfortable talking with your spouse and to help you hear and understand each other’s concerns.
  • Counseling can also help you uncover personally held expectations or beliefs that you may not be fully aware of. The mind is quite amazing. It can generate expectations you may not realize you’re carrying around with you. Your therapist will help you recognize these expectations so you can become aware of your needs and better communicate them with your spouse.

At Long Island Counseling, we’ll work together to understand your needs and your partner’s needs and to open healthy lines of communication between you, getting your marriage back on track. It’s never too late to start working towards a better relationship.